Easy things that will boost your confidence

Your self-esteem matters too!

As moms, we’re so engulfed in raising confident, independent, well-rounded kids. But what about us? So many of us feel like we lose ourselves in motherhood. But I’m wondering if that’s truly the case. Maybe, we’re just becoming who we were always meant to be, but we just need to increase our self-esteem as this new human rather than trying to force time to move backwards. So that’s why today’s post is all about how to feel more confident as a mom.

But first, shout out to all the moms out there who are showing up every day.

Being a mom is the coolest thing I’ve ever done. It’s simultaneously the most rewarding and the toughest job I’ve ever had though. At times, it’s really lonely too, which is weird because you literally have a tiny human attached to you all day long. How can you be lonely if you’re never alone? If you’re reading this, I’m sure you can relate. So I just wanted to take a second to acknowledge that all of us are showing up daily for our littles. You’re doing amazing.

Also, I’ve found that looking to other motherhood bloggers and vloggers helps alleviate some of that loneliness. These websites and channels are reminders that you’re not the only one feeling like this. Showing up every single day. We’re doing it all alongside each other.

Speaking of… One of my favourite bloggers that I found recently and am so inspired by Cassie Scroggins! I love her blog. She wrote a post on the same topic here, and I thought I could pull together my own version. Because we all have different experiences. And I think that by sharing our experiences, we all get a little closer to finding the answers.

How to feel more confident as a mom with the help of simple exercises.

Give yourself at least 30 minutes if YOU time every day.

Even if this means that you have to wake up before the babies do, I think it’s worth it. I will always savour that quiet time before someone needs me.

Of course, this is hard to do sometimes (on those mornings after they kept you up all night). So give yourself grace. But definitely prioritize it when you can!

Whenever you find that time, do things that are 100% for you. Not for getting ahead or taking care of others. It doesn’t have to be the typical self-care kind of stuff, like bubble baths and face masks. It could be as simple as sitting in silence with your coffee doing absolutely nothing or going for a solo walk.

Prioritize doing activities you loved before babies.

Of course, some things you used to do may not resonate (lol if you ever see me in a club again… unlikely). But there’s probably things that you used to do that you genuinely miss. Add those to your calendar. Follow through with them. This will help you remember that you do have a life and personality that is separate from your kids, and you are more interesting than the milestones they’re hitting… As exciting as those milestones are. And that is so important to remember.

Ask for help when you need it.

You’re not admitting defeat. I’m saying this one just as much to myself as you! When we’re stubborn and don’t ask for help when we truly need it, things are probably going to spiral. You’re not going to magic up the time you need to take a break when your list of responsibilities is getting out of hand.

Make time to move your body.

Not just to lose weight, but to feel strong and fit too. Yes, lots of us want to lose weight after babies (no shame if this is your goal too), but I also want to gain muscle that I’ve lost. Feeling good in your body is step 1 in how to feel more confident as a mom… It all snowballs from there.

Be realistic with what you can squeeze into a day.

This is important for all of us, but especially if you’re like me and juggle work with taking care of your kids. Even with the most efficient schedule, there’s only so much we can manage.

Pursue your personal goals.

Whether that’s for your career, hobbies or otherwise… You need to have goals. You need to know what you’re working towards if you want the future to look bright.

Recognize that you’re a good mom.

None of us really know what we’re doing in the beginning. But regardless, we figure it out. And that makes you a good mom. Your kids don’t need perfection… They just need your love.

Journal about it… Daily.

Journaling consistently has helped me navigate literally everything in my adult life. I have so many notebooks full of my thoughts, reflections, and emotions. This works really well for me because getting words on a page without judgement helps me process my day-to-day. And through processing that methodically, I’ve learned to change my mind.

There’s a quote… “Change your mind, change your life.” I’m not sure who said it, but I can confirm that the sentiment is true.

Why does all this matter?

I firmly believe that we show up better for others when we take care of ourselves first. If you’re stressed out, overstimulated, and haven’t had a spare second to think in a while, that’s going to manifest in how you interact with others. Even though most extroverted people have personal needs too.

I also believe that if you take care of yourself, you’ll feel better in all aspects of life.

• Move your body to feel stronger and more energized.
• Fuel your body with good food to feel lighter and awake.
• Fill your days with fun and love to rest easy at night.
• Deepen relationships with others because you feel confident in yourself.
• Build resilience for tough times with positive habits now.

There’s so much good that comes from just implementing small daily practices to take care of yourself better.

Remember that you deserve to feel confident as a mom.

You are worthy of self-love and care. You deserve to feel good as a mom and an individual. Remember that as you work to take small daily actions. And I bet little by little, you’ll start to feel more confident as a mom.